Why Shame is a Platinum Victim Card That Accumulates Frequent Failure Miles

This adult problem was once a childhood solution.

Shame is actually a covert defense mechanism. Many people don’t realize this, so let me explain.

When a child experiences abuse or neglect, it must choose between

They choose the latter, 100% of the time because it’s the safest choice.

And safety is a fundamental human need.

Shame is something we carry out of our childhoods because we had to in the face of insurmountable emotional f**kery.

The problem is, if you carry the soul-eating emotion of shame long enough and it gets lodged in your identity. It becomes your story, your habit, your confirmation bias, your self-fulfilling prophecy.

So yes, shame is a line of credit you took out against your future happiness when your parents shit the bed and you were hard-up for survival strategies.

The interest compounds over the years and buries you in emotional debt. And self-loathing becomes your monthly minimum payment.

But here’s the secret: Shame was never yours to begin with. You inherited it.

And perhaps you’ve been making payments on someone else’s debt all your life.

Find out where your shame came from and return it to its rightful owner. You don’t need that shit anymore.

I know it feels like you do.

Like it’s still keeping you safe.

But it’s not.

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